I was working with someone recently whose need to be right was in the way of him learning and doing what it would take to move his business to the next level. Sure, we all want to feel that we are contributing, but it becomes a problem when your need to be right stops your growth. Think about it for a second. If you need to be right – and genuinely think you’re right – there is really nothing left to learn. The way we grow and reach new levels is by learning new things. We will stay stuck and stagnant if we don’t. You will not reach your goals if you’re not open to new ways of doing things. If you do need to be right all of the time, you are likely linking your self-esteem to it. People who are confident don’t care what others think and put their own learning first over needing to be right (perfect).
It’s okay if you don’t know everything. The person who can admit this and will do whatever needs to be done is the one who will succeed. There are always going to be new and more efficient ways of doing things. If you stay open and make the commitment to learning rather than knowing everything, you will be miles ahead.
This also applies to behaviour. I’m reading an amazing book right now called You 2 (the 2 is actually supposed to be a small 2 and stands for squared) by Price Pritchett. In the book he explains that our old behaviours – the ones we know and love so well – can actually keep us stuck. Even if they have served us in the past. If we want to make quantum leaps (as opposed to taking a step-level approach), we must change our behaviours. We need to learn new ways of doing things and behave in the way we would when we’ve achieved what it is that we want. Ask yourself how you would behave once you’ve reached your goal? How would you act? What would you believe? This means stepping into the person you will become once you’ve reached your desires. You don’t have to do this slowly. Just like we can increase how fast we achieve something, we can skyrocket our success and incomes too. I highly recommend this book for those of you who are serious about making the leap in 2013.
Here are a few tips that will help you move forward.
Tip #1: Stay open to learning. Even if you think you’re 100% right in a situation, ask yourself what you can learn. There is always something.
Tip #2: Change your experience. Adopt new behaviours that will give you different experiences. This will help you reach your goals faster. If you keep behaving the same way, you are going to create experiences that are the same as what you have been getting.
Tip #3: Surround yourself with positive people who want to make changes too. Call each other on your cr*p and encourage one another to move forward. If you don’t have a mentor, get one. This is crucial to success. Just ask any successful person.
Tip #4: Believe in yourself. You can do this and you deserve to do it. You are meant to have an abundant life in all areas. Make the commitment to do whatever it takes to have a happy and abundant life. This likely means a shift in perspective and behaviour 🙂