I loved this instagram post from John Assaraf (from the Secret) yesterday so much that I had share it here 🙂
I encounter this all of the time with my own coaching clients especially when they’re in resistance. BY resistance I mean, not willing to see things a different way. Where they are so attached to their reason / story / excuse / whatever you want to call it, that they are unwilling to see the way to achieve their goals.
I’m not going to lie, I find it extremely difficult to coach someone when they’re in this energy. But then I remember their ego has taken a hold of them and that getting frustrated is not going to be the way to best help. What I’ve realized is that it’s essential to identify where the problem lies. If you try to talk to someone about strategy when they’re in this space, it will not land. The resistance only gains traction. The belief that is keeping them in this place must be addressed. What are they believing underneath the story that is keeping them in this pattern? Once you can identify that belief, and then create the empowered belief they want to have instead, massive momentum occurs! I just had a client shift from a disempowered state to an empowered place instead, and within a week she finished the month strong AND created the best month she’s had in a year!!!!!! Now THAT is exciting and WORTH diving deep!!!
The issue is that when we’re caught-up in a story of why we can’t do something we’re actually getting something out of it on a deeper level. Behind every so called “negative story” there is always a positive intention. So what is it for you? How is that old story serving you deep down? Likely something about safety, love, acceptance, approval, etc. Dig deep and you will find it. You then need to make sure that in your dream life – where you are doing, being and having what you love, that the positive intention you identified above is honoured. You need to remind yourself of this over and over (consistent repetition reprograms the subconscious mind), while thinking of an emotional memory of when this was actually true for you. You need to remind yourself of this OVER and OVER. I can’t stress this enough. You will then start to create new experiences that strengthen the new belief system you are trying to operate from.
BUT…you have to be willing to dig this stuff out AND most people aren’t. It can be painful to see why we do things deep down and to take responsibility for what we are creating in our own lives. No one is responsible but you.
A client asked the other day how long it is going to take for her business to take off. My reply was as soon as you don’t let your subconscious mind stop you. It’s designed to keep you safe and putting yourself out there while building a business does not feel safe. I just challenged myself to reach out to someone on my own “chicken list” AND it went amazing! I’m so excited for what the future holds! Force yourself to do the activity you know will yield results, while working on your belief system. Your subconscious mind wants to get your agreement to stop. It will tell you things like you’re too tired, you don’t have enough time, and that you’re not good enough.
As Marianne Williamson says,
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
You have to be willing to step into the best version of you, one step at a time.
You’ve got this. xo