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revelations from Costa Rica ❤️

After a few days of self-care here in Costa Rica, and a really great night sleep last night, I was ready to hear the message that I read this morning in A course in Miracles.

To lose faith makes our problems seem real.

Those weren’t the exact words, but that was the gist of the message this morning 😂

The idea is that when we get so caught up in our own problems, as we all do, we forget that there is a Divine power at bay, that is there for all of us, ready to help. And when we forget this we slip into faithlessness.

Regardless of any religious beliefs, my thought is A course in Miracles is spiritual in nature, and applies to all of us.

There is something bigger than us that we are a part of, that we are all connected to, that is there to support us and guide us back to love.

The more we can ask for help and turn our problems over to this higher power, the more we start to see evidence that it exists. We start to have ideas and see solutions that are the next steps to solving those problems. And not only solving problems, but allowing us to see the miracles and co-create our hearts desires. The more we can strengthen this faith and trust in something bigger than us, the more we can let go of grievances, and step into goodness❤️

I think a lot of times we can get so caught up in our own issues that we forget we have something bigger than us supporting us and guiding us. The guidance is there to support us through hard times and also times of co-creating our dreams.

At the end of the day, it all has the same purpose and goal, for us to heal and return to a place of love and peace. And where there’s peace, there aren’t any problems. And it doesn’t mean things aren’t still going on in our lives, but when we approach them with trust and faith, we are returning to a place of peace. And the more we do that the more we see peace, meaning the problem then elevates to the place of solution. The problem and the solution do not lie on the same level energetically, meaning we can’t see the solution when we’re stuck in the problem. Faith and trust bridges that gap and allows us to move into the seeing the solution which is always going to be about having a loving shift in perspective. The more we can let go of fear the more we can step into faith, and create and see the world from a place of love ❤️

What problem can you turn over today? I have at least 5. Lol. Let’s do it!

One empowered decision can change your trajectory!

It just takes one empowered decision to change your trajectory.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed in your business or any area of your life, I recommend tuning-in and taking inventory.

Look at what is causing the overwhelm. Is it finances? Is it having too many projects on the go? Is it a bad hire? Or maybe you’re like me, and you’ve listened to other people’s ideas, because they sound really great at the time, and then you get so far away from your own vision, that you’re like “what the heck?” This is not what I want.

And so you reassess. You take some time to redefine your own visions and what you’re really wanting to create.

And you start making one empowered decision at a time.

And when you start with just one, you see more. You start seeing through a new empowered lens, which leads to more and more empowered decisions.

Which in turn, helps you create more of what you’re really wanting. Yasss 🎉

This creates a sense empowered and inspired freedom.

So what do you really want?

And where are you allowing yourself to not create it?

What is causing the overwhelm?

What is causing the stress?

What is one empowered decision you can make right now that will shift your trajectory?

The Power of Women is Unstoppable.

I reconnected with three beautiful friends this week and my heart is full ❤️

I went to Ventura (north of LA) to be a guest on a podcast, which that in of itself was such an inspiring and soul filling experience! Two amazing women host it and I had the best time with them 🙂 I’ll share the episode for sure when it comes out.

I had made plans with my one friend to meet afterward in the Westlake Village area, who I hadn’t seen for years. Well on the way I thought maybe I will even see if my other friend is free afterward. I was in no rush to sit in a ton of traffic on the way back to San Diego, and thought I might even stay over.

Well low and behold, as the first friend was walking into lunch she ran into the second friend! And they rarely run into each other! There was so much screaming and hugging, and it was truly the BEST! Divinely led for sure and we had such a great time getting caught up 💛

I ended up staying over at the beautiful Westlake Village Inn, and had the ultimate self-care evening! I used that room FULLY! I had the best bath in the oversized jet tub, had the fireplace on with the sliding door open (my ultimate), and ordered room service and rented a movie. It was heavenly!

And it doesn’t end there, I was also supposed to call my other friend on my drive back, who was also a part of this women’s group. Well we ended up making plans to have coffee the next morning since I was staying over, and we too had such a beautiful, helpful and heartfelt conversation ❤️

All of the conversations with these friends were deep and light. We shared our stresses, our annoyances in businesses, where our hearts are being pulled, our worries about our kids, the annoying things our husbands do (sorry guys), had a lot of laughs and got into some really serious issues too.

Swearing, laughing, crying.

And I’m reminded of the power of women.

Our ability to share our hearts openly, analyze a situation as much as we like, laugh and cry along the way. Be there for someone else with the drop of the hat. Share our experiences, be relatable, and there to support 🩷

Nothing beats it.

And the more vulnerable and real we are, the more of an open and loving exchange we have.

We are all struggling in one way or another. Just when we think we’ve got it, we don’t.

The more we can laugh and get out of our heads the better.

The more we can share with our friends and even our business communities, that it’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to not have it all together.

This is real life. We are real humans with real emotions.

We go through stuff, and we help other people by sharing and being there.

It’s a give and receive. The more we can do both the more we see the biggest gift around us.

Love.

In all areas.

It puts us in a beautiful, surrendered energy where we cut through the tough exterior or perfectionism, and open up to the love and guidance there for all of us.

Not a coincidence we had 5 bookings in one day for our rental property.

Not a coincidence my navigation took me through Malibu on the way home (which it never does), where I was reminded of how this Cali dream all started.

Hmm…

And I didn’t even get into the workout I had with a friend earlier in the week or the long convo I had with another friend. They continue to be friendships I am so grateful for every single day.

Reach out to a friend. Go for a coffee or a walk, and share your heart ❤️

What derails us from our goal?

A coach I worked with once said if we let anything or anyone throw us off from our business goal, we are letting our subconscious take over.

The part deep down that feels the need to be nice. To be there if someone needs us. To drop everything to be there. Which in turn keeps us at an arm’s length from our goal, but we can justify it because “so and so” had a crisis and we had to be there.

His point is that it’s all one big distraction.

And so I went on to set some really harsh boundaries around my time and who I gave it to.

I had my eye on the prize that’s for sure.

And while I do think this is true, that we can get distracted by what’s going on around us, and also that harsher boundaries are needed at first especially if we’re not used to setting them, I definitely have a different take on this now.

Especially as I studied A Course in Miracles more, and started strengthening the spiritual laws around love and connection.

We are all one mind and therefore want to connect and share, and be there for one another.

To serve, to protect, to love, and to support.

That’s kind of hard if we’re focused on one monetary business goal.

We let that be the priority and miss all of the opportunities around us to connect, to support, to give.

And not that our businesses aren’t built on those principals, for most of us they are, but we’re kind of missing the point if the 💰 is our focus.

And what’s interesting is, the more we focus on the spiritual principals the more the monetary part flows anyway.

Because we’re alignment with a loving, helpful energy.

And not that we shouldn’t still have business goals or that it’s wrong to focus on money (money didn’t do anything to us!), it’s just that we miss the mark being so narrowly focused.

Love attracts love, and when we’re helping, giving, and supporting, we see the loving way for our goal to come to fruition as well. If we allow ourselves to receive.

Love is giving and receiving.

And on that note, that’s exactly what my old coach was saying if we look at being distracted from a spiritual place.

If we’re giving, giving, giving, and always putting others first, and their needs first, we are not allowing ourselves to receive.

To receive love, support and guidance. That is there for us.

We start to take on a martyr role and become resentful of spending our time this way.

I’ve had a few distractions lately, and what I’m reminded of is that it’s not so much about the time we’re spending, it’s about the state we’re coming from.

If we’re empowered, we’re on track. Because empowered decisions create empowered results in ALL areas of life and that is what enables us to see a soul-ution in two seconds flat.

But if we’re disempowered we enter doubt, worry, guilt, fear, and head down what I like to call a doubt-spiral. Where we cannot see our way out and feel stuck. Where we truly feel helpless.

Not great for creating or taking us closer to our goal.

And what’s likely happening if you’re doing all the things, but feeling empowered? Results are flowing.

So take a peek at where you’re at. Where are you at in terms of your goal?

And are you feeling empowered or disempowered?

If it’s disempowered, you can shift this I promise.

Think of one thing that is going to help this weekend. Ask the universe for help if you’re stuck.

Something will happen. You will have an idea, see something, or someone will invite you somewhere.

Something will happen if you allow it to.

I am going to yoga today and the spot I go to ads in Wim Hoff style breathing at the end, followed by a cold plunge and infrared sauna.

This pulls me out of my head and into my heart every single time.

What is it for you?

Parenting is no joke…

With a bunch of things coming up for a bunch of friends this week, myself included, this blog deserves a special dedication to parenting ❤️

Here was my week at a glance:

  • 2 hour walk with a friend where we shared our worries right now as Moms
  • 1 hour talk with a friend where I cried about my biggest concern
  • A workout & coffee with friends where we shared that we all have worries and how it connects to spirituality
  • 1 hour call with parents about their child who’s got a bad case of senioritis – it’s a thing! (high school argh) – and we shared our struggles right now

I am so grateful to have such a great community of friends that we can call anytime. And this extends from my immediate friends, to my friends friends, to my baseball friends. It’s all about community.

And at the end of the day, parenting is no joke. It is hard.

And if we’re all being honest, each of us has something we’re worrying about right now.

And it’s all valid, even if it seems “small”.

All I can say is allowing ourselves to feel how we feel, knowing it’s okay, is a big part of shifting the energy.

It’s okay to admit we’re struggling and that we need extra support. We do not have to be perfect or have it down perfectly.

The more we share with each other, the more we take the shame away, and can link arms and do this together.

What’s worked for you? What’s worked for me? What did your therapist say? We are a wealth of knowledge and uber resourceful. When we share we get to give and receive endless ideas and solutions, love and support ❤️

And we realize we’re not alone.

We’re never alone.

The universe is always going to show us the people and resources to help us and the more resources we gain, the more we can share with others and vice versa.

And did you know our can use the power of the universe to help you manifest what you’re wanting?

I prayed to see my daughter laugh and sing again, and two days later she was! It had been months and I mean months since I’ve seen her to do that.

The universe is always going to show us the way and create the space for more love and healing to come in.

I’m actually thinking of starting a prayer circle, where a bunch of us moms gather, throw our doubts and worries into the circle, and send good thoughts, prayers and love to all of our kids. Actually I am going to do it and I already have two friends who are in 💛

Doesn’t that sound so peaceful?

And that’s what it comes down to…in any are of life…what will bring us more peace, love & joy? It’s there for us. Sometimes we have to heal some stuff first, and do the hard things, but the peace that’s waiting for us on the other side is worth it.

a poem for you 🩷

In sticking with our self-love challenge this week I wanted to share a poem 💕

And if you missed our 3-challenge, it’s okay! You can still do it now and the weekend is the perfect time 🙂 You can catch the video in our group, where I mention the details and what I’ve come to learn about self-love 🩷 You can find the other 2 days under “featured” at the top.

This morning I was beating myself up about something…and during my meditation the guidance was, “you’re not going to be able to be there for your family the way you want if you’re treating yourself like this.”

Hmmm….isn’t that interesting. Not only does self-care fill up our cups, but so do loving thoughts, and what kind of presence do we have if we’re caught-up in beating ourselves up?

And so I let it go, just like that. I thought about loving myself and treating myself well and had a shift.

Wishing the same for you today too 🩷🩷🩷

 

i just wanna dance 💃

“I just want to dance” ~ Sara Jessica Parker, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun!

This was me last night 🤣 💃 And this was my favourite movie growing-up!

Did I ever hit the dance floor HARD!!! My husband’s “Dad band” has been doing really well and they played their first headliner act at a venue Fri night!

Live music + the fun they brought + so many friend coming out + a great outfit (gotta add that one in right ladies?!) = an incredible night!

What I loved the most is how much pure fun & joy this brought to everyone! Seeing the guys up on stage smiling, laughing and having fun warms my heart every time and looking around and seeing how much fun our friends and the crowd were having was the best.

And the dancing…ahhh the dancing…

To the point where people started, saying “I love dancing, I need to dance more” and also “I love our community” because of the supporting turn out…with it being a bit of a drive and out of our little bubble 🙂

And then I was reminded of my Dad (I shared last week he passed 17 years ago), and how much he loved to dance ❤️

And funny, today I wanted to share why I don’t pre-plan my “content”, which I’ll get more into another time, but it’s basically this.

I just never know how I’m going to feel and what I want to share until I’m in the moment…

And I hope sharing this today inspires you to do more of what you love…to not be so serious and go on and have some good old fashioned FUN!

Whatever way that looks for you!

Oh, and to also love where you live and create & receive a loving community. This has been everything in terms of having friends who fill my soul, and who I / we can call and count on at a moments notice. We all deserve to have loving people in our lives ❤️

And last but not least, to share & create content that you feel inspired to share in your biz…more on that later 🙂

I hope you all have a beautiful weekend! I’m switching gears to go clean out the locker room for the high school baseball team as we get ready for the upcoming season 🎉

the signs are there ❤️

Happy Birthday to my Dad! He would have been 77 today.

He passed 17 years ago, a month after our son was born (what a crazy time that was!), and I think of him often and always on this day ❤️

Even though I know he’s still here (the signs have been plenty), and I have learned to connect within him in my own way over the years, it is still doesn’t replace the physical touch of a hug and a laugh, and spending time with him.

It still makes me sad that he never met his grandchildren and that we don’t have any of those memories to think of.

I wish we could have one last meal and laugh together. I cherish all of those good times ❤️

But knowing he’s here watching over us and guiding us from a different place does bring some peace.

For everyone else who has lost someone they love, I am thinking about you too and sending you lots of love.

Being able to connect with passed loved ones for people has brought such immense healing and validation that we do live on, and I can’t think of more powerful “work” I could be facilitating.

What validation that our spirit lives on and that we truly are limitless 💫

Watch for the signs from those you love, they are always there. You know in your heart that it’s your loved one communicating with you, and no one else needs to validate this for you.

my top 3 energy shifters 👊

I went to the Barnes & Noble at the Grove in Beverly Hills this week for a book reading & signing, and it was just a true dream come true having my book there! The best part of it all though was having my 14-year-old daughter there with me ❤️ And she had such creative ideas for photo’s too! Such fun!

But what I realized is the trip took a lot out of me…more so than flying to go and speak somewhere! I think it was a different kind of mental energy being exerted and it really took me out the next day!

And I’m reminded that sometimes we just have those days where we feel low energy. Maybe we didn’t get a great night sleep, or something is weighing on our minds, or we just feel a little down and out and we’re not sure why.

So how do we shift our energy to a more empowered state?

Acknowledging the feeling helps. If it’s something bigger going on then we likely know why we feel off, but sometimes it can be hard to identify what’s going on. I like to try to tune in to gather some awareness. Acknowledging the feeling coming up in my body and where it’s coming from usually does the trick. Journaling is also super helpful to discover the root cause of the feeling. Often times it dissipates by just becoming aware of it and acknowledging it on paper. This ensures that we’re not just skipping over the feelings part! Acknowledging the feeling, and giving ourselves grace as we move through things is a big self-love state-shifter too!

But what happens when we just feel off or low energy…when there’s not really much to explain it other than a long day, mercury in retrograde or hormones!

Head over to my private community to read the full post and what my top 3 energy shifters and go to’s are 💛

Don’t take on more before you’ve finished what you started.

This has become my favourite new mantra.
I took on something a little while ago that sounded like a good idea, that actually was a good idea, but it ended up being wayyy more involved than I initially thought.
And what started with, “this will be fun”, quickly turned into a bunch of extra to do’s I hadn’t anticipated.
This caused extra stress, and I found myself right back in an old pattern. Take on too much, not having enough time to get everything done, letting things slide around the house, and snapping more at my husband and kids.
And it’s not that this doesn’t ever happen without extra stress, but it definitely happens less often.
It’s these “great ideas” that we’re excited to bring to fruition that leave us running raged trying to implement IF we don’t create the space and time.
There’s a time and a place.
Just because we have the idea doesn’t mean we have to say “GO” immediately.
To read the full post and how this applies to EVERYTHING and is the answer to more time & space click this link.

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