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What to do when a client wants out?

I want to talk about something a little heavier but too important not to address…

What to do when client wants to discontinue?

Whether it’s an online course, private or group coaching…

Well after putting our own egos aside – because it does hurt at first – allow yourself to take a higher perspective…

How can you truly help this person?

What is coming up for them?

Is there a fear you can help them through?

When we can put aside our own agendas and truly step into a place of helping and serving, it’s much easier to gain clarity.

If we “go curious” and stay unattached to the outcome, we can truly get to the bottom of what’s going on…

So, book a phone call.

And ask questions and LISTEN.

What is truly going on?

Because at the end of the day, they hired you to help them, and this is part of it.

Determine if this is something you can help them through.

And when you further your knowledge in belief systems and the subconscious mind, it will be easier to help them through whatever fears, triggers and resistance is coming up for THEM.

Because this isn’t about you it’s about them.

And the answer may or may not be to continue with your program, and that’s okay. But don’t shy away from an important call that could change their life and perspective.

The other thing to consider is, do they want to be helped?

They may not, and that’s okay too.

Know when to let someone go…

It’s also important to look at how the coaching agreement came to be to begin with.

One of my mentor’s used to say;

“If you have to drag them in, you have to drag them around”.

A little harsh but you get the gist. If you have to convince someone to take your program, they are likely going to be more resistant to the coaching later, and will either not want to continue on at some point, or be difficult to work with.

Remember they must want their own results more then you want it for them – at least 51% more!

You also may have had a “gut” feel about a “red flag” but chose to ignore it out of fear of who your next client was going to be.

The problem though with red flags, is they always come back to bit us in the butt.

So, think about the lessons you learned for next time… and how to best support your clients when they come up against obstacles.

Have a beautiful weekend!

~ Chris xox

P.S For those of you wanting to take a deeper dive into personal development and A Course in Miracles, our latest podcast episode “dropped” this morning where we talk about how guilt affects your connection with the unlimited ❤️

Holy hot angels and empowered calendars…🔥

Holy hot angels and empowered calendars…🔥

Hmm… what do those two things have to do with one another?

Everything.

They have to do with RECEIVING.

Being able to receive the divine guidance that is here for all of us, whatever way, shape or form it shows up in… whether it’s a sign, a book, an idea, or even angelic guidance!

What I’ve learned is it will show-up differently for everyone, and it will be whatever resonates with each of us the MOST!

I used to LOVE getting angel readings from someone who became a great friend in Oakville, Ontario, Canada. I met him at the little spiritual shop in the cute downtown area and was immediately drawn in.

BUT I needed to know he was normal first with having been an engineer beforehand 🤣

Funny how our minds work right?

Now that doesn’t matter to me at all…it’s more about the how accurate the guidance is…

But there’s also something else.

We must also make the time to RELAX. It’s super hard to receive those divinely led brainstorms if we’re rushing around trying to fit in so much…

Those patterns come from the ego – where we’re lacking in some way… time… smarts… experience… it talks us into all kinds of things to keep us in the perpetual pattern of busy-ness…

I’m not saying we don’t ever take inspired action or even have extra busy days working on projects…

But making time for ourselves throughout is key.

It raises our vibration… it helps us see the solution already there for us.

We are more RESOURCEFUL.

Meaning we are allowing ourselves to receive.

That’s where all of those brainstorms flow in…

So, checkout our latest podcast, where we talk about hot Angels showing-up and get into how we can enhance our own communication with one another….

And if you’re wanting to learn more about empowered calendars and how you can start creating more with less effort… tune into my mastercoach training.

Much Love and Happy Saturday!

~ Chris xox

Let’s talk resistance for a minute 🤔

Let’s talk resistance for a minute 🤔

I am sooo excited for today – I am taking Level 3 in Reiki! I am looking forward to opening up to the ethers even more and my teacher is adding in some cool additions that sound amazing! I started working with her in-person back when I lived in Burlington, Ontario (Canada). She is now in London, England and myself in San Diego, California, and I am thrilled she is now doing virtual trainings! FUN!!

So let’s talk about the opposite of FUN for a sec.

FEAR.

It is what is going on deep down under resistance.

It can come across in clients as being “uncoachable” and closed-minded…

But it’s really just a deep resistance coming from fear.

And you CANNOT talk them out of it.

Like you’ve probably experienced yourself, analyzing until the cows come home usually doesn’t help us get anywhere… it usually just leads to more analyzing…

You’re not addressing the problem on the level it’s at either. talking about strategy from this place WILL NOT help someone move forward.

They will get frustrated…. you will get frustrated… and it just won’t be super empowering for anyone…

So what can you do instead?

Realize this is a belief level issue (a story they have bought into around fear).

So take them through an exercise to help them shift their belief.

What is the feeling coming up, the fear associated with it, and the lesson to be learned?

Because what we resists persists, and the reaction we’re experiencing is coming up for a reason.

My kids love to belt out “TRIGGERED” when they me, I mean someone else, in reaction mode! Man are these youngsters super aware!

All kidding aside, I have found time line therapy to be super helpful in digging out where the feeling behind the reaction stemmed from.

From there you can help them create new empowered beliefs that support the real outcome they are wanting to achieve.

And IF they resist your efforts in helping them, you may need to ask them if they are wanting to resolve the issue, and if this can help would they like to try?

They still have free will and need to want the change for themselves. If you can help them chunk back up to their bigger vision that can help 💛

Happy Shifting!

Chris, xox

P.S. Our latest podcast on all things A Course in Miracles is all about letting go of judgement – of ourselves and others – on a deeper level. We hope you enjoy it 😘

The time has come 💃🏻

The time has come 💃🏻

I am soooo excited to show you our brand new website AND focus!!!

I resisted focusing solely on coaching coaches for years – what about the rest of the business owners🤔

But what I didn’t realize – was how deeply fulfilling it would be to help other coaches have the tools to transform other people’s lives – it’s the most amazing ripple effect!!

I am now solely showing other professionals how to add in high-end coaching & existing coaches how to scale their businesses! I am also certifying them in my process that has helped so many other entrepreneurs, and giving them a complete coaching business in a box for them to duplicate and replicate!

My ❤️ is full.

Resistance can be a funny thing… we tell ourselves ALL kinds of stories to keep us stuck and not taking the action.

And that’s okay.

It just means we have a few more lessons to learn, to have that shift in perspective that will enable us to receive the opportunities right there for us…

So do a little check-in… what are you resisting, and then what is the lesson? Try zooming out and looking down on the situation… what is it here to teach you?

* And side note…even though there is a slightly new focus, everything I teach and share is about stepping into the best version of yourself so that you can make empowered decisions and create whatever it is you’re wanting.

So I hope you will be inspired to hang around 🙋🏻‍♀️

I also won’t be offering as much coaching personally, but we are now creating an amazing community of coaches who are certified in our process, and if you would like help finding a coach please reach out 💛

Have an amazing weekend!

~ Chris xo

P.S. There is a new Self-care Masterclass and also a Mastercoach Training on the website if you are looking for additional resources 😍

What Shonda Rhimes says about working & kids 😍

What Shonda Rhimes says about working & kids 😍

We got into business to have the freedom we were craving right? To work when we want, with whom we want and where we want? And for many of us the desire to raise a family and be there for our kids!

BUT…something happens when we try to juggle BOTH!

The Mom guilt seeps in when we’re working and the dreamer drive when we’re parenting…

The choice on which to focus leaving us never quite measuring up in either…

I was listening to an interview with Shonda Rhimes the other day…and she said she is always choosing…

Accepting an award means she’s missing her child’s swim meet, and being at the swim meet means she’s missing something at work…

There is always going to be a juggle because we want BOTH!

And I truly believe we can have both if we tune into what works for us and how we want to do things.

I remember a mentor telling me once if I wanted to hit my big goals it meant I had to be willing to work into the evenings, get a nanny for the kids, and do whatever it took.

While there is something to be said about putting in the time, this also felt like a really masculine way of doing things. Grind it out, work all hours, and do not STOP!

Yikes.

I did do it for a bit and even had a live-in nanny…it was great for awhile…but then I started thinking, well why did I have kids then 🤷🏻‍♀️

Around the same time I started going to a monthly women’s group filled with successful Mompreneurs, and the advice was the opposite.

Be there for your kids, enjoy them now.

And there’s no ill will toward the men in the world, but like anything in life that we’re trying to sort out or navigate through, we need to find role models who are relatable and understand our own unique challenges. Like going through grief. It can be hard to talk to people who haven’t suffered a loss.

What this enabled me to do was tune in for myself. And as always I landed right in the middle.

I love driving my kids to their activities – careful what you ask for as holy moly did we double down on the sports now that things are opening back up 😳 Do I still get overwhelmed, yes. But I’ve become more self-aware and I catch it pretty quickly and know it just involves a conscious check-in on my own needs. Do I need to go to every single game – no it’s okay to take a break if even a self-care break never mind to work!

What I’ve discovered is that I like to have support around the house versus caring for the kids. Mind you my kids are older, and I’ve had every kind of support going over the years; live in nanny, part-time nanny, after school care, babysitters, etc. AND that’s the great thing about running our own businesses – we can do it in a way that works for us and it can also CHANGE! As long as we’re consciously tuning in we will always make the right choice at the time.

And I will say this. I love to work. I love my business and my clients, and I love creating. This brings me immense joy. And it’s okay to have joy outside of our kids. When we’re happy, they are happy.

And do we need to put in the time to achieve our goals?

Of course.

But I can tell you, when we’re on-purpose and doing what we love, results flow from this place and not from fear of not enough time. Where opportunities and ideas truly “magically” appear and where our cup is overflowing with enough love for ourselves, our businesses AND our kids.

THAT is the sweet spot 💕

So how does this look for YOU? Without judgement, and tuning in just for you…because this is going to look different for everyone and in different seasons of your life 💛

Chris, xo

Why bother with personal development work?

Why bother with personal development work?

Digging out the mental cobwebs can be tough work right? It forces us to look at some uncomfortable things…why we do what we do…why we believe what we believe…

It literally disrupts our paradigm…

I remember when I first started studying how our thoughts create our reality…

I had just lost my Dad unexpectedly, was asking the meaning of life AND then started learning about angels and mediums 😳

Talk about a disruption in beliefs.

We were in the Azores on a vacation and the thought of us living on beyond this physical world, was freeing but terrifying at the same time.

And that’s what happens, when the belief systems we’ve clung to our whole lives are disrupted…

It’s scary to change and let go. Our whole lives are built on these beliefs.

EVEN if our freedom lies on the other side.

And that’s just it.

That’s why it’s worth it.

Because we can be free from the limits holding us back.

If we can learn those limits…

…we can UNLEARN them too.

Can I get a “heck yes “??!! 🙌

In our latest podcast episode we discuss how we came to study A Course in Miracles, what makes it so powerful for ALL of us (it’s non-denominational), and WHY we say read it even though it’s super wordy and daunting!

I hope it brings you the peace it brings us 💛

Because when we fill up with joy and peace, it’s reflected in our external world in the most amazing ways!

Have a great weekend!

Chris, xo

To connect or not to connect that is the question…🤔

To connect or not to connect that is the question…🤔

We always have a choice to tune in and listen to the universal guidance that is inside all of us at any given time. It’s the consciousness that connects us, and there are many words to describe it: intuition, instincts, divine guidance, source energy, universal truth, and so on.

In our latest podcast we announce a special new sponsor 💛

A friend of ours in town has started a breath work movement. He is a successful chiropractor, and has now expanded into this area. He has studied directly with Wim Hof, and has a whole plethora of online classes. I have been fortunate enough to attend in-person several times, and I can tell you this: I have been practicing yoga and meditation for over 15 years, and I have never EVER gone as deep as I did in this class!!!

AT one point I stopped thinking – truly imagine that!!! – and after realizing it, I then thought, this is what it’s like to go beyond our thoughts! The energy and consciousness we’re all apart of is just energy and space, and has no thoughts!

And yes my 11-year-old daughter thinks I’m crazy! 🤣

But truly it was the most amazing experience! I loved it so much that I have gifted his monthly membership to my clients and also included it as a bonus in my new course.

You can tune into this week’s episode and receive the mind-altering special they are extending to our listeners! Yay!!

But what’s even crazier is how we finalized the sponsorship to begin with.

We had been trying to connect by phone and busy schedules kept getting in the way…I was out walking the dog (all my best brainstorms come in this way), when we were supposed to connect, and I suddenly “remembered” that his amazing wife was hosting a yoga class that I had been wanting to try. My ego kept telling me I had too much to do. My wiser self-kept saying “you slowing down is your f*$%n’ super power (she tends to swear!)

So I texted her and there was room in the class 🧘🏻‍♀️

I then thought, that’s perfect I can go a few minutes early to talk to my friend.

That worked perfectly for him and so I rode my bike over – how FUNNNNNN!!!!!

The three of us ended up having THE MOST amazing conversation!!

And what I love is how full circle this has come – he used to help me write my speaking engagements for chiropractors and here we are in this completely new realm…

BUT the best part of this day…

No one else showed-up for the yoga class! Which never happens and so I had a private class on their back deck that looks like something out of Bali all to myself!!!! It completely filled me up mentally, physically &Default Alt Tag for this page spiritually…

Ahh…

I hope you will check them out for their online breathing classes – which are great for those who don’t love yoga AND for those who do!!

So follow that guidance, it never lies…

Namaste and have a beautiful weekend,

Chris, xo

Who’s watching Surviving Death on Netflix?! 🙋🏻‍♀️

Who’s watching Surviving Death on Netflix?! 🙋🏻‍♀️

So when I heard about this series, I dove right in and loved it so much!

I became obsessed with this topic after losing my Dad suddenly a couple months after our first child was born. I was searching to find out what this life was really about, and I always say it wasn’t in a cozy find-your-purpose-or-passion type of way, it was coming from a place of anger, frustration, grief and devastating loss.

Apparently I wasn’t alone, and people have been asking about this since the beginning of time 🤣

I hired a medium soon after his death, and the things she knew about my Dad she couldn’t possibly have known.

So I have believed in this for a very long time and it’s led me to studying things like the law of attraction and the universal laws, and how we really might live on beyond our bodies!

It’s what ultimately led me to A Course in Miracles.

The book (study guide) helps us discover who we really are and that this world we see is really just a projection of our thoughts.

Wowsa.

I know it kind of sounds crazy if this is your first introduction to it, and I don’t take that lightly.

I remember when I was first learning about all of this, and I was led to one of Doreen Virtue’s books and had to stop reading it halfway through! It completely freaked me out and disrupted my belief system to the CORE!!!!

We were on a trip in the Azores with family at the time and I couldn’t stop thinking or talking about this! I was completely distraught.

Fast forward 14 years later, and now I have pretty much just accepted this to be true. This has come after studying many more books, pulling many angel cards, multiple sessions with various mediums, and LOTS of amazing miracles happening along the way! With each helping me have a shift and opening up more and more to the idea that we might just be eternal.

It truly is a magical way of being when we can tap into this universal energy there for all of us.

And… I’m convinced that all fears, worries, and anxiety ultimately lead back to being afraid of dying. And I know this sounds morbid but think about something you’re worrying about right now really trace it back – from business worries, to the pandemic ,to your kids not doing well in school…

Now imagine if you didn’t actually die and if your true soul and essence lived on, how freeing that would be!! How would you live your life? How would you show up every day? Imagine letting go of so much heaviness…ahh… How amazing would that feel? Notice how this would lead to completely operating from an empowered and freedom-based place that would then in-turn result in creating your biggest dreams!

Pretty rad right?

Tune into the series on Netflix and we also dive deep into this great topic in our latest podcast 💛

Have an amazing week!

Chris, xo

What if your doing someone a dis-service?

What if your doing someone a dis-service?

First off I have to tell you about an amazing book I just learned about! Apart from the title, it IS for men and women…

“The Amazing Development of Men”, by Alison A. Armstrong.

I kind of feel like it’s the missing info. that we all need to know about for being in a relationship or raising boys. AND I’m ecstatic to learn that this author has also created a book about women too! I was hoping!

I think this information should be taught to all young people! I’m all about equal rights and opportunities, but the reality is that men and women are different, and why not explore and learn about our differences so that we can best support one another? Just as we read parenting books to support our kids 🙂

But…

I have to admit, when my friend first told me about it, I thought “why are you just telling me about this now??” I needed this like yesterday.

And I knew the answer.

Because she’s not as boisterous as I am when she finds a great new resource!

Shouting from the roof tops and being all you-must-read-this-now about it!

Or maybe it wasn’t my time to read it…🤷🏻‍♀️

But…

It got me thinking…

How often do we hold back on sharing what we know will help people?

Afraid of being bossy or know-it-all-sy…

It’s rude to be a know-it-all after all…

But what if what we know is truly going to help someone?

What if by you holding back you’re actually doing someone a dis-service?

Like they’ll actually feel slighted if you don’t share with them?

Not what most of us have been taught I know…

But people want to know what you know!

They want to hear from you!

You have been through a lot, fought many battles, and have much to share.

So please, for the sake of that person who needs to hear what you know…

SHARE!

In whatever way feels right for you.

You don’t have to do it an over-the-top-sharesy sort of way like me 🙋🏻‍♀️

The world needs your light 💫

Much Love this weekend and always,

Chris xo

What if you are doing someone a dis-service

What if you are doing someone a dis-service

First off I have to tell you about an amazing book I just learned about! Apart from the title, it IS for men and women…

“The Amazing Development of Men”, by Alison A. Armstrong.

I kind of feel like it’s the missing info. that we all need to know about for being in a relationship or raising boys. AND I’m ecstatic to learn that this author has also created a book about women too! I was hoping!

I think this information should be taught to all young people! I’m all about equal rights and opportunities, but the reality is that men and women are different, and why not explore and learn about our differences so that we can best support one another? Just as we read parenting books to support our kids 🙂

But…

I have to admit, when my friend first told me about it, I thought “why are you just telling me about this now??” I needed this like yesterday.

And I knew the answer.

Because she’s not as boisterous as I am when she finds a great new resource!

Shouting from the roof tops and being all you-must-read-this-now about it!

Or maybe it wasn’t my time to read it…🤷🏻‍♀️

But…

It got me thinking…

How often do we hold back on sharing what we know will help people?

Afraid of being bossy or know-it-all-sy…

It’s rude to be a know-it-all after all…

But what if what we know is truly going to help someone?

What if by you holding back you’re actually doing someone a dis-service?

Like they’ll actually feel slighted if you don’t share with them?

Not what most of us have been taught I know…

But people want to know what you know!

They want to hear from you!

You have been through a lot, fought many battles, and have much to share.

So please, for the sake of that person who needs to hear what you know…

SHARE!

In whatever way feels right for you.

You don’t have to do it an over-the-top-sharesy sort of way like me 🙋🏻‍♀️

The world needs your light 💫

Much Love this weekend and always,

Chris xo

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