A common theme seems to be coming up this week with clients & friends. CONTROL! Why can’t we just “let go” & “let flow”? Why is this so hard? The bottom line is this, we just CAN’T control everything! When we try to control things we create extra stress and unrest for ourselves. If you can release the need to control, you will see that life seems to flow a lot easier. I truly believe there is something bigger out there then us who is looking after our best interests and who has our “back”! I recently read something that really struck me. We as individuals have a limited perspective of everything including our own lives. The bigger power looking after us, whether you call it God, Source, Creator or the Universe, can see the larger perspective and can therefore see the very best way to deliver us what we want. You will find it isn’t always delivered the way YOU would have chosen, however, it is always the very best way.
Here are some tips on how to “let go” of control.
Trust – Truly believe that a higher power is looking out for you and has your best interests at heart. If you are trying to bring something new into your life, ask for it and believe the very best way for it to happen will present itself. Don’t forget to take action when it does show up! You also might find that it will show up one step at a time. The universe only delivers to us what we can handle at any given time. If we’re shown the bigger picture too soon, we may get overwhelmed and not do anything! Just trust it’s all working out & follow each step as it happens. You will know you are on the right path if it feels good and exciting (you might feel nervous, but for the most part you will be excited).
Relationships – If you are in a partnership it can be hard to be “positive” and “trust” if the other person isn’t in the same head space. Just know that everything is happening the way it’s supposed to. This is a great chance for you to work on “trusting” it is all going to work out regardless of the way your partner thinks. You will find that when you think this way, you are calmer and therefore you create a more relaxing “safe” place for your partner. This in turn will effect how they act too. If you find someone (your partner or someone else) acts in a way that you wouldn’t choose – just take a deep breath and recognize that person is on their own path, and has their own lessons to learn and life to live. This way of thinking has helped me enormously in my own marriage. Who am I to say things “should” run a certain way?
Open-mind – Stay open-minded! You don’t have all of the answers and you don’t know everything! Be open to other people’s opinions and ideas. You don’t have to agree, but just be open. How annoying is it when you talk to that “control freak” who thinks they know everything! Or that person who gets defensive when you suggest something to them that differs from what they’re saying. They’re not fun conversations and definitely aren’t uplifting. Don’t be that person. Stay open minded and respect what other people have to say. Don’t get defensive if someone doesn’t agree with your opinion. How boring would the world be if everyone agreed with you??!!
“The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.”
– Ralph Marsten